Tuesday, 31 January 2012

No Love for January

I am no longer dating Tim from the skate date.  I wasn't 100% sure how I felt about him so when he texted to say things had "petered out" I was kind of relieved.  I don't really know what he meant by petered out.  I am not sure if things ever petered in (?).  I mean I never felt any instant connection and there certainly was no passion to fade out...whatever...don't get it.  Maybe that's all he meant that there was no connection, who knows.  However, In the same text he said that I was really pretty, nice and funny....so I don't know what his problem was exactly.  I mean to me if I found a guy that was handsome, nice, and funny I'd probably hang on to him. 

Oh well...another 5'7er  bites the dust.

On another note I also got approached by a bi-curious female online, not once...but twice by the same girl.  Of all the bizarro things that have happened to me online, this one is actually a first.  Apparently she was wronged by her last BF and is fed up with men and wanted to give girls a go.  Flattered?  Maybe.  Into it?  Not at all.

I am also talking to two, possibly three potentially great guys.  Then again aren't they all?  One of them asked me for a drink or coffee....so once the date happens I'll be sure to post.

Sunday, 22 January 2012

Guy#10~ Tim: Skate Date

I just got back from my second date with Tim.  We went skating. It is my favorite type of date.  A date that includes an activity.  I like dates where you get to do something fun.  It's a great way to break the ice (no pun intended) and get in a little flirty action.  We hit up The Oval, which in my opinion is probably the best winter date you can have.  You get to get dolled up in your best, cutest, cozy gear and show off your best moves.  The hot chocolate afterwards is nice too.  Needless to say the date was a success.  I was initially concerned that Tim's height might be a turn off...but...it isn't:)  He's really cute and nice and since I am only 5'3" I am over it for now.  The conversation was easy and natural and he can take a little teasing which I can appreciate.  I think we will be seeing eachother again soon.

Thursday, 19 January 2012

Guy #10~ Tim

I went on a date on Tuesday.  I think the guy is not so bad.  I usually try to put some colorful description of the guy/date in my title.  However with this dude there were no crazy weird things for me to comment on.  Here are the only possible potential problems I can foresee:

-He is short (5'7")...but aren't they all?
-He wears a leather corded necklace with some sort of gemstone or shark tooth.

Is that enough to call it off?  Generally I would say yes...but I think he is nice and cute so we have another date coming up on Sunday.  I will let 'cha know how that goes. 

Saturday, 14 January 2012

Single Girl Song: Potential New Boyfriend

It's Saturday and I am heading out on the tonight with the girls.  This will be my theme for tonight:)

Back off bitches!!!

Friday, 13 January 2012

Horrific Dates in Histoy~ Raj

This isn't my first online dating rodeo.  My first foray into this crazy world occured somewhere in either 2006 or 2007.  One of my first and most memorable dates was this guy named Raj. Raj was originally from India.  When we started chatting he had been living in Canada for about five years, but was actually home in India for a few months.  So we chatted for a few weeks and planned our first date upon his return to Canada. 

Our first date started off really sweet.  He brought me a hand beaded purse and a pair of earrings from India.  We had decided to go bowling.  It was super fun.  We had some beer, got a tiny bit tipsy and had a few laughs and overall a great time.  After bowling we decided to go back to his place and order some Chinese take out and watch a movie.  We had another beer or two and then Mr. Raj got brave.  He went in for the kiss.  I was having a great time so I figured, why not?  Well he started to get a little excited and was moving a little faster than I had anticipated or was ready for. He did the good old fashioned leg hump that I love so much and actually ripped a button off my shirt trying to get his hand up my sleeve and to my girls (interesting approach, might I add).  At that point I had enough.  I tell him what I am thinking and leave.

The next day I get a phone call from my date.  He was extremely apologetic and felt really bad about the way things went down.  He seemed quite sincere and since our date started off so great I decided to give it another shot...always with the damn second shots...note to self...that has got to stop! Anyways we go out a few more times and he truly is a nice guy.  On one of our dates I discover that he had actually dated a girl that I had gone to school with all throughout elementary school, but moved away in grade seven.  They ended things on positive terms and he actually still had her contact info so I got it from him and I reconnected with my old friend.  We probably went on a total of about five dates.  At this point he was wanting things to be really serious.  He called me every morning to be my wake up call, so he could hear my voice as soon as he woke up, stuff like that...barf.  Anyways as is the case with most guys I ever seem to date, I really wasn't feeling the attraction.  Since he seemed to be getting ahead of himself with our "relationship" I decided I had better end it.

About a month or two later I am chatting with my old friend, the same one that had also dated Raj.  Well, what she had to say truly shocked me.  Literally days after things had ended with Raj and I he packed up his bags, flew back to India and got himself a wife! I guess he was tired of Canadian women and just wanted to settle down and get married so he let his parents set him up in an arranged marriage!  I guess I was the straw that broke the camel's back for this guy.  He just couldn't take another rejection from a Canadian woman and decided to do things the old fashioned way!

So yeah....that's the kind of crap that happens to me.  Date a guy, he the concludes Canadian women are crazy and decides marrying  someone he's never even met is a far better alternative.  The funny thing is I have run into he and his wife a few times here and there....we both avoid making eye contact and pretend not to see eachother.  I think it's for the best. 

Although, I have always wanted to wear a sari...

...mehndi is pretty neat too!

Sunday, 8 January 2012

AKA Date Girl

Just a little note about this blog.  This is something I do for fun.  It is something I do because I like to write.  It is just another way to express myself and chronicle the ridiculous dates that I have been subjected to as a single girl in this city.  I choose not to write using my real name for reasons that I would think are quite obvious:

a)  I am single and dating in a small city.  A single google search of my name would likely turn up this blog.  In all likelihood noone is going to want to date a girl who could potentially spill all their dirty little secrets on her blog.
b)  Out of respect and privacy for those I have dated I have not included my own name or theirs.  All of the stories I tell are true but I have tried to change or leave out details that would identify anyone.
c)  It's not really the kind of thing you want your boss reading about you.  My mom doesn't really need to know about my leg getting humped either...

I am not ashamed of my dates, the things I have done on them or anything I have written about.  I just want to be asked out again without having my potential victims dates knowing that they could end up on a blog about dating disasters.  If anyone wants to turn this baby into a book then I will gladly out myself to the masses (all 6 of ya!) and take full credit for the hilarity that is my blog and sadly enough my dating life. 

P.S.-As some of you may know I also have another blog where I write quite publicly using my real name, about the rather mundane details of my day to day life.

Single Girl Song: "Far Away"

I recently heard this song and I think it pretty much sums up how I am feeling and what I am hoping for in life.  I think it is quite fitting because I am originally from a small fishing community and somehow the city boys I keep meeting are missing some of the qualities that I love so much about the men at home.  I can't seem to find the right balance of country boy values and city boy style. 

Just a simple life by the sea...is it too much for a girl to ask for?

Friday, 6 January 2012

What Do You Do with Gifts from Exes?

I was just getting ready for bed and removing my jewelry and thought to myself "Is it weird that I am still wearing jewelry given to me by an alcoholic ex-boyfriend who I dated over 7 years ago and is now married to and has a child with someone else?"   I personally don't give a shit.  If it's nice and I like it I will wear it.  I don't think most of my friends would...and although generally a very sentimental person I don't seem to attach any sentimental value to ex-bf gifts.  To me it's just stuff, pretty stuff, given to me by some loser ex boyfriend.  So if I didn't get anything much from the relationship I might as well enjoy a little bling.

Granted these are not engagement rings I am talking about...I don't think I could go there...although I probably could melt down the gold and get the diamond set in something else and be okay with it.

What do you think? What do you do with gifts from exes?

Sunday, 1 January 2012

Kissin' Mission NYE

Yesterday I told my BFF that I was going to be bold and tell all the cute guys at the party/dance I was attending for NYE to find me at midnight and I would kiss whoever showed up.  Well that didn't exactly happen.  It was hard to make contact with all the boys considering we arrived at the party only an hour before midnight and was not nearly brave drunk enough and there were literally maybe three single guys there.

So I missed my midnight kiss...but did I let that get me down?  No, of course not.  I quickly rebounded and found a dance partner and boogied the night away.  A little about this dance partner....he was a very cute, drunken, bearded redneck that I dated about five years ago and have always had a little thing for ever since.  His willingness to cut a rug with him boded well for him and instead of a midnight kiss I settled for a two a.m. kiss, worked for me. 

That was my first kiss for 2012.  What else will the new year bring in the kissin' department?  Only time will tell.